A Fairy-Tale Type of Love

Chapter 15

February 12, 2025

⏳ Why are you waiting for love to start living?
💭 Three biggest lies I believed about true love
👀 A final reminder: You’re not going to die alone (;

Dear Little Me started as a way to speak to the little girl inside me—and the one I hope to have one day. A place where she could go when life feels impossible and lonely. When she wonders if she will ever be chosen—or if she will make it out alive.

Because when you’re in the trenches, no one really knows what to say. No one knows how to sit in it with you. So I write these letters not just as reminders, but as survival stories. Proof that even when life has felt cruel, I made it through. And you will, too.

My heart aches knowing how many little girls hate Valentine’s Day.
The ones who tell themselves they aren’t enough.
The ones who wonder why they’re still waiting.
The ones who don’t understand why love—or life—has never seemed to choose them.

I know this feeling well—because I lived it.

For years, I didn’t understand what love—or life—was supposed to feel like. I confused it for things that weren’t real. Here are three of the biggest lies I believed:

1. I thought love was supposed to be hard.

The grander, the bigger the love. If the highs were ecstasy and the lows were bathroom floors, then it must have been real love... But love isn’t meant to be something you survive. It’s supposed to be safe.

2. I thought love was something I had to earn.

I bent, shrank, and twisted myself into someone I thought would be easier to love. But love doesn’t ask you to audition. It chooses you exactly as you are.

3. I didn’t think I deserved love.

I thought fairy-tale love wasn’t meant for someone like me—that I was too much, too complicated, too hard to love.

Here’s what I know now:

The life that fits you won’t ask you to be healed first. It won’t require you to bend, to shrink, to mold yourself into something smaller.
It will meet you exactly where you are.

And if you’re still waiting—for the love, the life, the belonging—please know this:
✨ You don’t have to be whole to deserve the things you need.
✨ You don’t have to prove your worth to receive the things that were always yours.
✨ You don’t have to fight so hard for what is already on its way to you.

So this Valentine’s Day, whether you are in love, heartbroken, or simply trying to figure out what comes next, I hope you celebrate all the ways life has shaped you.

The lessons.
The losses.
The waiting.
The becoming.

Because love isn’t just the great romance.
💡 It’s in the friendships that catch you.
💡 It’s in the strangers who make you feel seen.
💡 It’s in the quiet moments when you choose yourself, when you could have settled for less.

And if today hurts—please remember this:
🕊️ One day, life will feel soft again.
🕊️ One day, love will find you in all the ways you never imagined.
🕊️ And when it does, all the nights you spent crying, wondering if you would ever make it out of this moment, will feel like a distant, almost laughable memory.

Because life always moves forward. And when it finally arrives, it will not leave, even when you think you don’t deserve it.

💌 P.S. Stop telling yourself you’re going to die alone. (;

XX,

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