Getting Started And Why Most Don't

Quick Recap of What’s Inside:

🚀 The messy beauty of building a brand at 24—and what it taught me.
🔥 Why starting over at 32 feels different but necessary.
💡 3 ways I’ve motivated myself to start again—and why you should too.
⭐️ Women Who Started Over & Why You Aren’t Late

The Hardest Part of Trusting Your Gut (or Weighing the Pros and Cons)

We’ve all been there—staring at a decision, listing the pros and cons, trying to make the “right” choice. Whether it’s a career move, a relationship change, or a lifestyle shift, it’s easy to get stuck between logic and instinct.

For me, it’s always been about trusting my gut, even when it doesn’t make sense on paper.

I spent nine years building BootayBag from the ground up. It gave me stability, success, and a cushioned lifestyle. But here’s the thing: despite all that, there’s this gut feeling telling me to move on, to start something new. It’s not logical—it’s emotional. And if you’ve ever felt that pull, you know how hard it can be to leave something safe for the unknown.

BootayBag was my survival story. I built it out of scarcity, when I had nothing to lose. But now, at 32, my back isn’t against the wall. This time, I’m making a leap from a place of abundance. It’s not about survival anymore; it’s about a deeper calling to create something new.

I know many of you can relate. Maybe you’re weighing the pros and cons of a big decision right now. The truth is, sometimes the logic doesn’t match what your gut already knows. And that’s the hardest part—trusting yourself enough to take the leap, even when the pros and cons don’t seem to add up.

I’m not here to tell you it’s easy. Walking away from something comfortable, familiar, or safe is never simple. But if you feel that urge to jump, trust it. Even if it’s messy, even if it feels risky—because that’s where real growth happens.

So, here’s to trusting your gut, taking risks, and embracing the unknown. I’m stepping into this next chapter without a grand plan or strategy—just the belief that I’m supposed to do this. And, yes, I’ll probably fuck it up along the way.

One thing I’ve learned, though, is that there’s no one “right” way to do things in business or life. For a while, I depended too much on seeking advice or validation from others, and in doing so, I lost my own voice. The key isn’t just collecting resources or opinions—it’s about making decisions that are yours. And if you’re wrong? Own it. Learn from it. When I worried more about pleasing others or being scared to fail alone, I wasn’t really being myself.

💡 3 Ways I’ve Motivated Myself to Start Again:

1. I ask myself: Would I be more embarrassed if I tried and failed, or if I never tried at all?

2. I’ve learned that other people’s opinions shouldn’t dictate my own fulfillment.

3. I’ve embraced the idea that the first step is the hardest. And to allow the first version to be a work in progress.

⭐️ Women Who Started Over & Why You Aren’t Late

• Vera Wang

  Vera Wang didn’t start her career as a fashion designer until she was 40. Before entering the world of bridal couture, she worked as a figure skater and fashion editor. Now, she’s a global icon in the bridal fashion industry, proving that it’s never too late to pivot to a completely new career.

• Julia Child

  Julia Child didn’t write her first cookbook until she was 50, and she didn’t become a celebrity chef until her show "The French Chef" debuted on television when she was 51. Her late-blooming success is a testament to following your passion, no matter when you discover it.

• Tory Burch

  Tory Burch launched her eponymous fashion label at the age of 41, after working in public relations and fashion for years. Her brand quickly became a huge success, and she is now a fashion mogul with a philanthropic foundation aimed at empowering female entrepreneurs.

• Arianna Huffington

  Arianna Huffington founded The Huffington Post at 55 after a career in politics and journalism. She turned the media company into a major success, selling it to AOL for $315 million in 2011. After that, she launched Thrive Global at 66, focusing on health and wellness.

• J.K. Rowling

  Although she wasn’t 40 when she found success, J.K. Rowling is a great example of starting over. In her early 30s, she was a single mother living on welfare before writing Harry Potter. Her journey shows that major success can come after hardship, and even after the "traditional" time for success has passed.